My wife and I have been on several trips since we got married almost two and a half years ago. These adventures have been filled with plenty of learning experiences. Here are seven tips we have for couples traveling together for the first time:
Agree On An Itinerary
It is important to be on the same page. We always write out a basic itinerary for each of our trips. We include a general timeline for the activities we want to do, restaurants we want to eat at, and places we want to visit.
If we’ve learned anything from traveling, it is that your itinerary is never set in stone. You’ll need to be flexible. It is important to figure out and focus on the activities that are a must see for each person.
Travel can be stressful. There are hundreds of things that can go wrong, and probably will go wrong, during your trip. On almost every trip, much to my wife’s disappointment, I inevitably get us lost. My wife is usually very patient with me as I open up Google Maps and figure out how to get back on track. Sometimes you have to cut your partner some slack. Be patient with one another.
Give Personal Space/Time When Needed
Travel involves being with each other almost 24/7. Most couples don’t spend this much time together on a daily basis. Allow yourselves to have personal time when needed. This may look like setting aside some time in the evening to each read a book, take a bath, or catch up on social media.
Figure out your strengths and divide responsibilities accordingly. This will help you play off of one another’s strengths and keep one person from having the bear the burden of all the travel logistics.
For instance, my wife is great at packing our luggages. She manages to fit way more than I ever could into a carry-on bag. On the other hand, I am in charge of all the electronics. I make sure our devices are charged and loaded with TV shows and movies (from Netflix, Amazon, etc.)
Fights Are Still Fights
You’ll probably argue about the same things you do back home. Just because you’re on vacation doesn’t mean you won’t get into the occasional fight. It is actually probably more likely to happen on a trip since you’re constantly together. Work through your arguments and resolve them because you don’t want it to interfere with the rest of your trip.
Not Every Moment Has To Be Romantic
Taking the train through Europe might sound like the greatest adventure, but four hours into your train ride when you haven’t washed your hair or brushed your teeth you may realize this wasn’t the vacation those romantic comedies promised you. Although not everything is romantic some of these memories are the most meaningful and bonding between a couple.
Experience Something New
Whenever we go on a trip, we try and do something we’ve never done before. In Hawaii, we went zip-lining. In Amsterdam, we tried a dutch dish called stamppot. Shared experiences are important in any relationship. Some of our fondest memories are things we both experienced for the first time together.